It’s time for a dramatic change in how the gay community views dating. A large portion of gay singles need to abandon their ageist ideals of youth. The unfortunate truth is that younger men are likelier to be out and proud, potentially limiting the dating pool for older gay men.
If you’re struggling to navigate the dating scene at 50, let us lead you with the reassuring words of Natasha Bedingfield. After all, your story is still unwritten.
Release Your Inhibitions
Negative stereotypes among the community perpetuate the idea that gay relationships depend exclusively on physical attraction. They reinforce the idea that as we age, we’re less likely to form long-lasting, meaningful connections with others. But remember that this ageism comes from a place of immaturity that you’re well past.
You’re never too old for love. You won’t find the innocent, idealistic love you wanted in your 20s right now. However, you should look forward to a more complex, mature love that welcomes a range of perspectives and realities.
Feel the Rain on Your Skin
Whatever your age, a sense of self-worth will make you more attractive to potential romantic partners. Convince yourself that you’re a fine catch, given your maturity and age, and take that assurance with you wherever you go.
Stop pining for your younger self and start appreciating the skin you’re in. Be kind to your body. Have patience and gratitude for every hurdle it has helped you get through. This way, you will let people see the real you rather than a self-critical, stressed version of you.
No One Else Can Feel It For You
The key is to prioritize yourself while looking for dating prospects. No one else can or should be making decisions for your happiness. These days there’s too much emphasis on entering a committed relationship, even if it’s not the right one for you. You might settle for the first decent option when you get desperate for a partner.
Never settle for anything less than genuine attraction, compatibility regarding beliefs and aspirations, and long-lasting companionship. What’s the point in pursuing a relationship that’s making you unhappy, especially now that you’re older and wiser?
Only You Can Let It In
Don’t settle into a rut of habitual behavior and thought patterns. It’s time to shake things up, so get out and do something exciting. If walking into a gay bar makes you uncomfortable, try online dating apps. Connect with other like-minded gentlemen who are a good fit for your unique set of interests and values.
Trangend is a great forum where you can find your perfect trans match online. Unlike other LGBT dating site, we let you sort your search based on interests, personality traits, and preferences. This way, you know you’re going to get compatible matches you can form a meaningful relationship.