We’ve seen too many hookup horror stories over the years, but that doesn’t mean your experience has to be something to cringe at later on. Hooking up can be fun and exciting if you go in with calm nerves and respect for consent.
That said, here are the things you should avoid doing to make sure you have a good time:
Not discussing your preferences beforehand
It may feel strange at first, but expressing your innermost thoughts and desires to your partner before engaging in any form of sexual activity is a great way to set the mood. Don’t be afraid to ask your partner about their preferences either.
Thinking it’s wrong to speak during the hookup
It could also be difficult to communicate your feelings while having sex. People often avoid being candid with a new partner for fear of “killing the vibe”. Nonetheless, it is essential to have clear communication before, during, and after the hookup.
If something comes to mind before or while you’re having sex that you think your partner should know about, say it. Guide them towards what feels good to you or doesn’t, give them options, and keep checking in to ensure you’re both comfortable. It’s especially more important to voice your thoughts if you’re not okay with something.
Everybody should know by now that its protection is the most important precaution. However, many people shrug this off and assume that being careless one time won’t hurt. The problem is that there’s a high chance that it will come back to haunt you.
Moreover, you might forget to plan and get caught up in the heat of the moment. This why you should always carry a condom or two at all times. And in case you do forget, make sure you consult a doctor as soon as you can.
Not telling someone about your whereabouts
If you’re planning on going to a new person’s place, it’s important to tell at least one person of your whereabouts. If you’ve met this person through a dating app, let a friend, roommate, or trusted family member know who you’ll meet and where.
This will also ensure you’re safe and secure while hanging out with people you’re meeting for the first or second time. It will also help you relax and enjoy yourself without feeling anxious about your loved ones worrying about you.
Lying on your online dating profile
Perhaps the biggest mistake you can make is false advertising (which many people view as scamming) on your dating profile. When creating an online profile, be honest. It’s always good to mention the parts about yourself that you love — your personality, preferences, relationship goals, etc.
This is why we focus on ensuring our members’ privacy and safety at TranGend. Our LGBT dating site stands out from the rest due to the unique experience we offer. Unlike conventional dating sites, we let you filter your options based on preferences, traits, and personality. This way, you get a more compatible match.