3 Things No One Mentions About Long-Term Relationships

Is there a manual on long-distance relationships that can prepare you for the storm that’s about to come? No.

When you’re in one, you learn to deal with the curveballs the hard way. Nobody tells you the things you’re about to share, or the blows your relationship is about to experience.

We’ve seen many relationships crumble just because of distance. And we don’t want yours to be another one. That’s why we’re here to tell you everything you need to know.

The Loss of Touch

Touch therapy is not pseudoscience. It’s a credible treatment that helps route energy—known as biofield—to parts of the body where it’s lacking. But you don’t need to explain the science to people who are currently in a long-distance relationship.

And before you get any ideas, we’re not just talking about sex!

The loss of touch is a real problem, and one that you don’t register until you’ve been away from your partner for weeks, months, or even years! Being able to hold hands, snuggle close, rest your head on their lap, or rub their feet are all ways to give and seek comfort. It reminds you of the closeness you’re experiencing, both physical and emotional.

When you’re together, there’s a lot that can be said and done through touch. You don’t need to put into so many words when a reassuring smile or a compassionate press of the hand can do the job. It shows them that you’re there for them to fall back on if need be. But with phone calls and video chats, it’s just not the same.

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Growing and Moving On

The biggest threat to emotional compatibility comes from being in two different places, and pursuing different things. Love is indeed about liberating your partner to go wherever they like and to do whatever they like. But it’s also about staying close and growing together.

When you’re in different places and leading different lives that your partner is not a part of, your experiences become too divergent for your partner to understand. You learn new things and meet new people, all of which have an impact on your personality. They may feel like you’re growing apart, and when you meet, you’ll be a different person.

You may find a new comfort food or a different favorite movie than the one you enjoyed together. And this takes a toll on your partner (or you, if the situation is reversed). It’s hurtful for them to let go of your shared experiences because it’s a testament to the fact that they’re not part of your life anymore.

Loss of Contact

Remember when you used to lodge your partner’s name and contact number in every form that asked for an emergency contact? You can’t do that anymore if you’re in a long-distance relationship. Why, you ask?

If you’re in different time zones, it’s hard to reach your partner at odd hours. You also can’t expect them to know what’s happening because you have to wait for weekends to catch up. They’re just not accessible to you anymore, and therefore, appointing them as your emergency contact fails the purpose.

This becomes more hurtful when they’re not there to listen to your rants or soothe you during your sobs. You can’t vent your feelings because you have to wait for an appropriate time to call them up.

This becomes worse when there’s a pressing concern, and you can’t wait to get their opinion on it. But guess what? You have to learn to make decisions on your own, which your partner is not a part of.

With all of these differences and difficulties, it becomes impossibly hard to rekindle the love you once felt. There are many miles to cover before the two of you can be on the same page once again, and it takes enormous effort.

But online dating has helped many long-distance relationships stay afloat until they meet again. Sign up for our memberships so you get a reason to talk to your partner every day!

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